It’s pretty amazing when you think about it. Our words are powerful. Our beliefs rule our lives. Many people use the affirmations to change their outlook on life to get the results they’re seeking, overcome obstacles, and yes, making the impossible, possible. Many would argue that affirmations are psycho-babble. Maybe they are. Yet it is true that what you focus on becomes true for you.
I met this young woman who I will call Tiffany. She looked as if she had the perfect life; walking elegantly in her designer dress, confident in stature. Her tumbling raven hair danced across her shoulders. Her deep brown eyes were full of energy. On the outside, Tiffany had it all. But did she? Her life is anything but Ideal.
Tiffany lives in a shelter for abused women with her two young children. Yet she finds the positive in everything. She told me, “You have to believe and keep affirming what you want to make true in your life so it will become true—no matter how untrue it is at that moment.”
She told me she was on the brink of committing suicide to get out of her abusive relationship with her husband. However, when she began working with her therapist, she discovered the power of positive affirmations. She realized who she really was. Tiffany wasn’t the labels her husband and others have given her. She removed those old labels and created her true identity by continually affirming the best for her and her children. The result, Tiffany discarded the looming negative beliefs she held on to for so many years. She saved her and her children’s lives. While she’s working on getting her and her children their own place to live, Tiffany also works with other abused women in helping them realize their true identity and freeing themselves from abusive relationships.
Truthfully, what is an affirmation? Basically, it is declaring that something is true in the present—whether it is true today or not. The words you have used in the past have determined where you are and who you are, today.
Whether you’re declaring something positive such as, “I am smart” or negative, “I’m an idiot” are both affirmations. Affirmations are true in the affirmative and the negative. Why? Because you believe they’re true.
There’s science behind affirmations. According to Dr. Carmen Harra, featured columnist at Huffingtonpost.com states:
Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains. Much like exercise, they raise the level of feel-good hormones and push our brains to form new clusters of “positive thought” neurons, see http://www.arlenetaylor.org/brain-care/953-affirmation. In the sequence of thought-speech-action, affirmations play an integral role by breaking patterns of negative thoughts, negative speech, and, in turn, negative actions. Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/affirmations_b_3527028.html, 04/01/17
Your Turn. How to create affirmations:
What do you want to be true in your life? Always state it in the positive. Begin with, “I am…” “I have…” State the affirmations as if they are true today, such as: I am abundant, I am fun. I am healthy.
Use the positive such as “I am healthy.” Rather than, “I’m no longer sick.” Put your affirmations in places where you can see them such as your bedroom or bathroom mirror, in your wallet where you’ll see the affirmation when reaching for money; even post them on your steering wheel—such as I LOVE MONDAYS! Okay, saying that you love Mondays will help your day go better than if you say, “I hate Mondays.” Create your own affirmation cards.
When you believe what you are affirming is true (it will likely take some time, to convince yourself), then your mind is accepting them as truth.
Note, When your affirmations get stale, create new ones. Still skeptical? It boils down to this. What you believe is true for you—period. Why not make your declarations or affirmations work for you? Here are some fun ideas:
Create a vision board with colorful pictures of how want to see your life. Include some uplifting affirmations.
Place colorful sticky notes stating what you want your life to be, even if you don’t believe it today—such as I am successful, I am smart, I believe in myself, I am blessed, I am lucky, I am loveable, I respect myself, today is a beautiful day.
Journal them daily and read and reflect upon them.
Record and speak out your own affirmations with genuine emotion. Then listen to them on your MP3 player right before going to bed or upon waking up—that’s when the subconscious mind is the receptive to our thoughts and declarations.
Be sure to share the affirmations have worked for you.
Find more fun and easy tips at http://www.wikihow.com/Use-Affirmations-Effectively.